At Toastmasters today, I was asked during table topics (which, for you non-Toastmasters, are questions that require the delivery of a brief, impromptu speech) what career I would choose if I had life to do over again. My answer had more to do with life choices than career choices. I talked about how I would re-do college and be a party girl rather than a straight-laced responsible student because maybe then I would date more, get married and have kids blah blah blah. When I sat down, I felt like a broken record, and I felt broken.
That got me thinking. During this time of year, I often think in terms of lists, primarily lists of things I want to do. I think it’s time for a list of things I don’t want to do anymore.
- I don’t want to dwell on not being married.
- I don’t want to dwell on not having kids.
- I don’t want to dwell on relationships that failed.
- I don’t want too much work to be my excuse for backing out of plans or trips.
- When it comes to writing, I don’t want to claim that I just don’t have time.
- When it comes to running, I don’t want to say that I just don’t have a faster gear in me.
- When it comes to travel, I don’t want to blame not traveling on not having someone who will travel with me.
- I don’t want being alone to be my excuse for not learning how to cook.
- I don’t want shyness to be a reason for not dancing.
- I don’t want fear of change to keep me from…anything.
These things need to exit my vocabulary and my mindset. Talking about them does me no good. Thinking about them does nothing to move me forward. I want forward movement. Better yet, I am capable of it.